n terms of coming out, I suppose I never necessarily “came out” as a whole event. I feellike in the early 2010s, a lot of people viewed coming out as one huge thing in your life. Iwould say that perception comes out as this huge shocking thing. But when you’reactually LGBTQ+, you’re potentially coming-out whenever you meet someone new.(Ngo, 2022)
Ngo’s reflection on his K-12 experience underscores the complexity and repetition of this process. Unlike a definitive coming-out moment, each encounter with new friends, peers, and even family members can bring a renewed opportunity for self-disclosure, sometimes met with disbelief or dismissal, as with his own mother. For LGBTQ+ youth, particularly those from conservative or less accepting backgrounds, coming out can become a prolonged and sometimes exhausting process, exacerbated by a lack of role models or support systems in schools and families. This ongoing process, as Ngo describes, also highlights the challenges of balancing one’s identity in environments that might not fully accept or understand it, often leading LGBTQ+ individuals to repeatedly assert and explain their identities.