The Sadkers observed hundreds of classes and watched as girls typi-cally raised their hands, arms bent at the elbow in a cautious, tentative,almost passive gesture. At other times they pause or stop to think beforeraising their arms straight and high. Educator Diana Meehan calls thisphenomenon the "girl pa use": If a teacher asks a question, a girl pa usesto think, Do I know this?Meanwhile, a boy blurts out an answer, and theclass moves on. 2 In contrast, when boys raise their hands, they fling themwildly in the air, up and down, up and down, again and again. Sometimesthese hand signals are accompanied by strange noises, "Ooh! Ooh! Me!Me! Ooooh!" Occasionally they even stand beside or on top of their seatsand wave one or both arms to get attention. "Ooh! Me! Mrs. Smith, callon me." In the social studies class about presidents, we saw boys as agroup grabbing attention while girls as a group were left out of the action.
This passage really highlights how subtle gender norms shape participation in classrooms. The “girl pause” shows that girls are socialized to second-guess themselves before speaking, while boys are encouraged to be bold and assertive. What’s interesting is that even though these behaviors might seem small—like how they raise their hands or speak up—they reinforce who gets the teacher’s attention and whose voices are heard. It’s a quiet reminder that confidence and visibility in learning aren’t just about personality, but also about how society rewards certain behaviors over others.