Fatherhood can be such a wonderful thing for both fathers and children, but all too often it is a relationship structured by the ugly power dynamics of patriarchy, marked by broken relationships, emotional distance, and psychological, physical, and sexual abuse.
I'm grateful for this thinking. The commercial sales pitch for Father's Day is aggressive in its hegemony -- the disconnected father celebrated on the one day a year he is made to engage. This reflection reminds me of the ethos of the origins of Mother's Day, started by peace activists and public health advocates. It was about the unique position of the mother to advocate against the meaningless deaths of her children -- especially sons in war. What is the equivalent ethos for Father's Day, a day whose roots are deeply entrenched in Catholicism and patriarchy?