D=S-M Despair = Suffering without Meaning

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Spend more time with friends and family, especially your kids and parents

1. Talk to kids every day
2. Play games with them
3. Help with school
4. Call parents/go over

That I have great-great grandchildren who still come visit. That I have students who remember me. That my husband is 110 next to me.

Everyday saints - everyday kindnesses

That they work together, so just one typel

why people started camps for city kids...

socioecnomic?

Lose yourself in moment, not focus on self. Melt down confining selfhood Makes a small self.

social media to tell you aren't enough Gratitude - tells you to exchange things biologically Advantage to be nice to each other, drive to be social Consequences - stimulate brain, better to save/retrieve positive and put off bad feelings. Refocus to good and help you feel better.

How to feel more? Can you train it? Gratitude journalling Self-reflection

Harvard study of 75 years low Boston, Harvard Good relationships keep us happier or healthier -social connections are good and loneliness kills Quality of close relationships, conflict is bad for us Good relationship in 80s, helps your brain, memories are better

lifespan marriages careers less than 14% are less than 5 Children - 400 times a day Have to mimic smiles Act of smiling makes us feel better babies born smiling Better than chocolate, 1 smile is same as 2000 bars of chocolate smiling a stimulant as cash makes you healthier - reduce stress hormones, reduce BP Makes you look good

More important determinants of happiness: 50% from genes 10% is life 40% is intentional activity (in our power to change)

What do happy people do? -good at relationships -more grateful, optimistic -savor pleasures -spiritual/religious -physical activity -goals

two core truths about positive emotions: 1. Open us - warmth opens us like a flower, see more -can help with education if positive emotion about math 2. Resilience - can bounce back more, think of positive memories before test can improve test. Seeing big picture, not just small things - more interconnections.

focus on good things, don't be insincere

Flow: being really engaged and perfect level of hardness, perfect challenge, rewarding Mindfulness: focused awareness on what is going on right then - being in place, grounded in present. Learned optimism - can create joy, can control the future and life - what students need. Well being isn't just fortune, but you can do things to improve it.

This can be very helpful to students - not what they are bad at, but what they are good at. The difference between you got 2 wrong rather than 18 right.

I think this can be very helpful with students - seeing their strengths. The focus not on what they are bad at, but what they are good at and how to enhance that.

We create happiness - fake happiness. We will decide what we got is best.

I think this is where I see students/teacher needing to work - how to and receive constructive criticism to grow on both sides.

I think this is true in education - you have to go into any class with the belief that you have something to learn or you won't. If you walk into a class feeling that you already know it or that the teacher has nothing to offer you, you won't learn. A humble student knows they have much to learn. But the same is also true of the teacher - they need to make sure they realize they have things to learn as well as that symbiotic relationship can be magic.

How could you turn this into something that you could practice in class? I think of things like "good things" in primary school, but could this also be done at a college level without students shrugging it off?

I think this also is crucial for students with bad experiences in education - they need to forgive the educator that they feel wronged them or they can't often move on and focus on learning new material as they continually just feel bad about it.