M: This article focuses on what parents can do to be better "sports parents"

O: I thought this was a really great article, if you look at the 6 things that are "wrong", it points to some of the concepts that keep coming up again and again as I look through comments/posts about mental toughness.

• be accountable/responsible
• focus on putting in the work, that's the important part
• don't blame others.
• there is a time and a place appropriate for all conversations.

Q: "Losing hurts and it should hurt. The pain eventually subsides, but if we remove the failure, setbacks, and allowing them ownership of their mistakes than we actually cheapen the joy of winning. How can we truly appreciate winning and improvement if we have never lost?"

M: mm

O: definition

Q: "steady persistence in a course of action, a purpose, a state, etc., especially in spite of difficulties, obstacles, or discouragement."

M: Definition

O: definition

Q: "strong and durable; not easily broken or cut."

M: Definition for grit

O: Considering definitions of synonyms.

Q: "firmness of character; indomitable spirit; pluck:"

M: Synonyms for toughness: grit, resolve, perserverance, persistence.

O: Understanding what synyonyms might be used is useful for getting a firm grounding on the language around the topic.

Q: in this case the quotes are the other words.

"Growth mindset" vs "Fixed mindset" is important to consider as I dig deeper into the subject of mental toughness. This video talks about various attributes that are important for mental toughness.

• work with your feelings not against them
• keep your eye on the big picture
• Fail going 100%!

I saw a play about game gate, really well done and really illustrated the personal impacts of being "doxx"'d. Reflecting back on that story, doxx'ing seems like it might be a poor way to actually influence someone's thinking or behavior.

I think that same could be said for any label you want to put on people on the internet. Due to the nature of the internet once it is "out there" it is never going away. Even if you have evolved and no longer hold views you once held, the things you said, will continue to be there for everyone to experience, see, judge, discover about you, etc.

In many ways that is one of the most unfortunate things about the "commercialization of the internet", social media, reality television, etc. it's the whole idea of pleasure versus enjoyment. When we aren't working for anything and just passively letting it come to us, we discard it as soon as it's "used up"

That's the really tragic part is that people are selling other people's lives so they can get "internet famous" for just a moment. Not for doing anything meaningful with their lives, simply by harvesting private moments of other people.

Another way of saying "stay present" but I also liked the graphic linked here:

"Strength doesn't mean you're not afraid, it means you keep going, even when fear and doubt say you cant"

I really like this quote, so often we are in the groove and moving forward and then our mind wanders and everything falls apart, we start to question ourselves and our belief in ourselves suffers

I've become fascinated with what mental toughness means to different people. I know this reference is a bit of joke, even so it is another perspective on mental toughness

I was shocked by this. As a nation we've been burdened with domestic terrorism for far too long to not have laws in place that address this problem directly.

That jumped out at me, I often check things that I am suspicious of, but I don't check everything. Good reminder to check everything.

Good introduction to the history of bubble models here.

I really like this graphic showing the "skin pressure" and other forces at play when considering the pressure of a bubbl

Good general information on VPM and RGBM bubble models

Looks like they cover Roosevelt in the PBS Program "the West" this is worth looking into/watching

A lot of good information/links regarding TR's presidency

Details of Roosevelts Nobel Prize