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  1. Oct 2020
    1. he told me to be more careful in the future and drove away

      Why wouldn't he have done more than that? I have a feeling if he was a women behind the bushes, he would've probably been taken to the hospital or at least the police station.

    1. “The disproportionate abuse by female staff members does not occur because women are more often staffing facilities,” the authors write. “Men outnumber women by a ratio of three to one in positions requiring direct contact with inmates.”

      That's crazy. So it's saying that the women to men ratio is one to three and yet women officers are more likely to abuse the inmates?

    2. Noting the high prevalence of “sexual victimization committed by female staff members and female inmates,” the authors report that women are “much more likely to be abused” by other women inmates than by male staff.

      Wow, I would've never thought that. Again I feel like we should be talking about this more. I feel like there are so many layers when it comes to this subject, gender, age, race, superiority, etc... Its similar to Gabriela's quote she annotated below.

    3. feminism has fought long and hard to fight rape myths—that if a woman gets raped it’s somehow her fault, that she welcomed it in some way. But the same conversation needs to happen for men.

      I think that this is an interesting/important quote. I think that it is an important conversation to have for everyone because it really isn't just men raping or sexually assaulting women, it goes both ways. Growing up I was only told about the horror stories of men attacking women, but rarely would it be women attacking men.

  2. Sep 2020
    1. As Williams (2012) puts it: 'I thought “Well, I didn’t say “No.” forcefully enough. I didn’t insist. I didn’t hit him, push him away. It must be my fault.”'

      It's so sad that people feel like they should think like that, but after going through a traumatic experience like that, it must feel like there is nothing else to think about but that.

    2. Narratives of non-consensual behaviour in BDSM have a - probably greater - risk of reinforcing stereotypes of all BDSM as abusive, particularly given the still-criminalised status of some BDSM practices (Weait, 2007) at a time when these have again received popular and legal attention

      Unfortunately, for the writers, I believe that because not too mangy people read BDSM, so if there a few out there that are about non consensual behavior then it could ruin it for that reader and other future readers.

    3. McAulay terms what followed a 'war' between those who wanted more open discussion of these issues and those who wanted to close discussiondown.

      I had no idea that this was a thing that happened in 2011.

    1. The sites in this set were almost all written in a light-hearted, informal tone and targeted to adults; most referred to sexual images and textmessages interchangeably

      I am curious to see how reliable the sites are the further you go down the list of searches for each page.

    2. I only analyzed articles that appeared on thefirst page of results for each of the three search terms, which consisted of 21 unique web-sites.

      I never thought about using the first page in its entirety, I usually only focus on the first couple links, and if I haven't found what I want then I search something else.

    1. A‘good’womanwas expected to keep her sexuality‒along with all the rest of her activity‒confined to theprivate sphere. Men, on the other hand, were encouraged to participate in public life (pro-vided they were also white property owners) and were often rewarded for bragging abouttheir sexual exploits.

      This has been occurring for centuries. I remember learning about Marie Antoinette and King Louis XVI of France while on my Europe trip this past February and I remember our tour guide saying how he had many mistresses while being married to Marie Antoinette, and being seen with them in public. That was normal for men to do back then, but for women, they would be called whores and shunned for what they did. Apparently Marie Antoinette did have an affair with someone at that time as well but she never got caught until later. I just think that it is still crazy that this still kind of happens today, but like Tyler said, it doesn't happen as much to women, but it still happens.

    2. Tocompel anyone, and especially a woman, to lay bare the body or to submit it to the touch of astranger without lawful authority is an indignity, an assault, and a trespass

      It's interesting to me that they would mention this in a supreme court ruling. Usually this sort of thing is just assumed and never really written out for people to see.

    1. this is the idea that women, while less interested in sex than men, have a strong interest in long-term, stable, roman-tic relationships.

      Some women are as interested in sex as men, so I never really understood this aspect. I feel like not everything should be put on the man in the "relationship", because some women have the same tendencies. I am not saying that men never think like this, because some do, but I'm saying that it goes both ways, same goes for wanting and having a romantic relationship.

    2. he way we do sex is profoundly shaped by our social structures and the ideas we have about it.

      I feel like in some cases this is true now a days, but I feel like some people do it to show their love for one another.

    3. The first is the idea that sex and human sexuality can be explained purely as a biological instinct. This idea is reflected in the male sexual drive discourse, which sees men as biologically driven to seek heterosexual sex.

      Why was it originally based on men's biological instinct?

  3. Aug 2020
    1. These myths mean that for women, drinking too much is reason to blame them, but for men it is reason to excuse their behavior.

      I have heard this many many times and I think that it is so wrong. They should learn to control themselves and act like a functioning person in society instead of telling women that if they wear something that they thought looked nice, it will automatically make them a target for sexual harassment or rape, limiting what women can wear that makes them feel confident.

    2. What do our ideas about virginity or marriage tell us about how we should conduct our sexual and romantic relationships?

      Many people feel pressured to have sex just so that they won't be a virgin anymore, so they pressure their significant other into something they aren't ready for.

    3. We tend to think of women who wear certain types of clothing, or flirt, or drink alcohol around men as women who want and consent to sex

      To add on to this, there are also circumstances where the victim is given a drink that has been tampered with, but they don't know that so they drink it. This is another thing that people have to look out for so they won't be put in those types of situations where they can't give consent. So instead they can also say "no" to the drink and avoid the situation entirely. It's sad that people do that to other people, but it is unfortunately something we have to look out for.