"...the whole time I waited to see when (or if) this affair would run out of fuel. I prayed that it would, so I could marry the man I loved." If she wanted to marry her fiance so badly then why would she cheat on him in the first place?
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- Feb 2016
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www.nytimes.com www.nytimes.com
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"Predictably, almost as soon as the engagement ring slid onto my finger, I fell in love with someone else" This quote shows that the author was not interested in marrying her fiance in the first place and she was interested in someone else instead.
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"The Chinese participants tended to associate love with negative features, e.g., heartbreak, and spontaneously listed more negative items than Americans, who associated love with more positive features, e.g., adoration."
This proves that culture plays a major role in our ideas of love
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Plus, the MRI gave me some supposedly objective proof of my feelings.
the MRI benefited the author because he learned his true feelings not only for his wife but in general
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"Your brain is not just seeing pure reward, the way it is in the beginning of a relationship.
I feel as if he lost his love for her the moment they got married
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And if I understand how I love my wife, maybe I can learn how to love her better.
This is a very strategic way of thinking about love
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When I told friends and family I was trying to scientifically assess my love for Julie,
If he has to test his love for his wife, he does not love her. The tests will only prove something that he already knows
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If love is simply chemicals, doesn't that change its meaning?
Everyone has different meanings and versions of what they think love is
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I think I love my wife. At least most of the time.
if he has to question whether or not he does love is wife, then maybe he does not love her as much as he wants to
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Why doesn’t passionate love last? How is it possible to see a person as beautiful on Monday, and 364 days later, on another Monday, to see that beauty as bland?
Our feelings are constantly changing every single day and sometimes we may not have control over our own feelings
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Let me be clear: I still love my husband. There is no man I desire more. But it’s hard to sustain romance in the crumb-filled quotidian that has become our lives.
It is possible to be in love with the idea of someone but it does not men that you are necessarily in love with them
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It's weird you're this fucked-up about marriage, she says. You grew up in a perfect home.
Growing up in a perfect home does not mean that marriage will be easy for you.
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And she feels it is because I'm worried about losing people, like I lost my parents, so I don't ever put myself in a position to lose.
This is the reason why she has built her walls so high because she is afraid of letting them down and losing someone important to her
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More than I believe in the sanctity of union and promise, I believe that everybody cheats.
This is true but everyone has different versions of what they believe cheating is
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If you are about to say something that's going to crush me, then don't take me to my favorite restaurant and do it to me over wine.
She knew long before they got in the car that he was going to let her down
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But you can't have it now so you need it.
This proves that we don't know what we have until we lose it
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Maybe an actual individual needs to heal you, says a friend of mine to me.
This may be true but it also goes against the saying "you should learn to love yourself" by saying that we need another individual to do that for us.
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Once a cheater, always a cheater.
This isn't always a true or accurate statement. There are many reasons why people cheat but it does not mean that a person will cheat on every single one of their significant others.
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Days after she'd been told by her husband that he's leaving not for anyone in particular but only because he doesn't love her anymore,
At this point, the wife already knew that her husband was in love with another woman
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I love X, but I don't know if I can live a life with him knowing what's out there.
She doesn't feel like she can create a life with him due to the fact that he is committed to another girl
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- Jan 2016
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I'm so scared. I mean, I won't lose it. I'm just addicted.
She is addicted to a love that she has created with someone she knows she will never be able to be with
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She says, I hate myself. She says, This is thrilling.
The author does not feel bad for being with someone who is married because it gives her a rush that she has never felt before
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More than the illicitness of the sexuality, there's a sexuality to the selfishness. To doing precisely what you want to do.
Cheating makes the author feel selfish but also gives her power at the same time
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harpers.org harpers.org
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Theheatisalltoofamiliar.InAugustittakeshoursforthedawnfogtobumoff.Theairislikewetwool
I like the insight the author gives the reader about the weather in Illinois
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