for - definition - learning by ostensive definition - adjacency - ostensible definition - parents - external proxy - children's private experiences - This is a very deep insight and important point - Parents are stewards of culture and they lead their children into a world of shared names - It is important to note that - the parent who teaches the child the name for some aspect of reality - only ever has a proxy to the child's private experience of reality - That proxy is the externally observed behaviour of the child - In fact, we fundamentally only ever have public external proxies to the private, "inner" lives of others