45:00 Social anxiety as more of an attention problem than it is an emotional problem.

Also see other HealthyGamerGG on how directing attention can help with awkwardness https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oTrCLOyoRq8

0:40/2:40 Trying not to be awkward leads to being awkward. Thus the awkwardness arises from the desire to not be awkward (paradox of trying). Not being awkward is more about where attention and awareness goes, than it being about doing something about it.