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  • This conversation was insightful on so many dimensions salient to the polycrisis humanity is moving through.
  • It makes me think of the old cliches:
    • "The more things change, the more they remain the same"
    • "What's old is new" ' "History repeats"
  • the conversation explores Naomi's latest book (as of this podcast), Into the Mirror World, in which Naomi adopts a different style of writing to explicate, articulate and give voice to
    • implicit and tacit discomforting ideas and feelings she experienced during covid and earlier, and
    • became a focal point through a personal comparative analysis with another female author and thought leader, Naomi Wolf,
      • a feminist writer who ended up being rejected by mainstream media and turned to right wing media.
  • The conversation explores the process of:
    • othering,
    • coopting and
    • abandoning
  • of ideas important for personal and social wellbeing.
  • and speaks to the need to identify what is going on and to reclaim those ideas for the sake of humanity
  • In this context, the doppleganger is the people who are mirror-like imiages of ourselves, but on the other side of polarized issues.
  • Charismatic leaders who are bad actors often are good at identifying the suffering of the masses, and coopt the ideas of good actors to serve their own ends of self-enrichment.
  • There are real world conspiracies that have caused significant societal harm, and still do,
  • however, when there ithere are phenomena which we have no direct sense experience of, the mixture of
    • a sense of helplessness,
    • anger emerging from injustice
  • a charismatic leader proposing a concrete, possible but explanatory theory
  • is a powerful story whose mythology can be reified by many people believing it
  • Another cliche springs to mind
    • A lie told a hundred times becomes a truth
    • hence the amplifying role of social media
  • When we think about where this phenomena manifests, we find it everywhere:

• for: art for healing, art for conflict resolution

• for: lifetime student, student universalis
• definition: student universalis
  • student of life
• comment
  • the perspective of the student universalis is:
    • I search for truth
    • truth through ideas is an ideal that I can never reach
    • I only have nearer and nearer approximations to it
    • I realize that all my ideas are tentative, provisional and temporary
    • I can replace an old idea with a new one through my own discovery or when others share their discovery with me
    • I will not be biased in my search for truth, whether it is from the youngest child or a perceived foe
    • I will not hesitate to share my truth if it is open to being received by others
    • there is no conflict, only the search for truth together

• Take a deep breath and pause
• when you feel your body

• ramping up for a fight.

• COMMENT

  • Recentering oneself back to calm
  • reduce the cortisol release on yourself
  • dissipate the feeling of being threatened

• Insulting others and suggesting someone is ignorant or misinformed,
• no matter how misguided their beliefs may be, ,- will cause the people you are trying to influence to reject your argument.

• Instead, try asking questions that lead the person to question what they believe.

• COMMENT

  • Good conflict resolution involves not triggering release of cortisol in the other and planning then in a threatened state

While she may not have coined the phrase "win-win", Mary Parker Follett's process of integration described in her book Creative Experience (Longmans, Green & Co., 1924) forms the basis of what we now refer to as the idea of "win-win" conflict resolution.

Follett's ideas about power over and power with also stem from Creative Experience as well.

1. Those using the power-over, power-with distinction include Dorothy Emmett, the first woman president of the British Aristotelian Society, and Hannah Arendt; Mans- bridge, ‘‘Mary Parker Follet: Feminist and Negotiator,’’ xviii–xxii.

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Dhami, Mandeep & Olsson, Henrik. (2008). Evolution of the interpersonal conflict paradigm. Judgment and Decision Making. 3. 547-569. http://journal.sjdm.org/8510/jdm8510.pdf