主流观点认为成功经验是学习的主要来源，应该被优先记录和分析。但作者认为失败经验实际上可能是更重要的学习资源，因为它提供了反事实信号和潜在陷阱的宝贵信息。这一观点挑战了传统只关注成功案例的做法，提出失败可能是更强大的学习驱动力。

大多数人认为LLM应该从成功经验中学习，但作者提出从失败过渡中合成验证函数的观点极具反直觉。这种方法将失败视为宝贵资源而非需要避免的问题，挑战了机器学习领域的主流优化思想。

This is the concept of growth mindset; and we need to teach that to our children in any way possible. It has been shown in studies that growth mindset has a positive causal influence on academic and financial success (I cannot state sources, but I know I've come across this)

Note to self: Research this later.

Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm (or motivation)

The sixth step, most essential as well, is to Accept the Wins

Owning the losses means also owning the wins.

The fifth step is to have Selective Memory only choose to remember the events that serve the future. Things that help to improve in the future.

It's like Marcus Aurelius wrote (in a slightly different way): "Ask yourself at any moment, is this essential?" In this way it would become: "Ask yourself at any moment, does this help me?"

The fourth step is to Apply the Reflection. Adjust behavior based on reflection. We improve not for validation, we improve for ourselves (stoic philosophy)

Document the journey in for example a journal. Make a comparison between what would be done in the past and what will be done in the future.

Data collection. Measurement.

Marginal Gains. It's sort of a daily continous Kolb's cycle but in a more lightweight form. I can already see the power in this. Absolute gem.

Could also be overwhelming if applied to a lot. therefore, use the power law and focus on what is essential to life change. (thanks Dr. Benjamin Hardy.)

The third step is to Reflect and think into the future. Extract meaning and lessons from the failure. Think about opportunities.

Reflection increases confidence. Kolb's can help with this a lot.

The second step is Sit with the loss in order to find the (root) cause of the loss or pain. Do not avoid the pain, don't distract oneself, instead embrace it and feel it.

Endurance can be trained. Comfort with uncomfortability can be trained in the same way.

Accept and sit in the fire. Embrace the turmoil.

The first step to deal with loss of any kind, be it a girlfriend, love, job, purpose, etc. Is to ACCEPT YOU LOST

Failure = Failure.

Failure is inevitable, and will be part of any learning process. Therefore it should not be avoided at all costs. It should be used to learn from. However; there is also no point in seeking failure, for if failure is not something negative, there is no point to improve (says the author at least)

Pescetelli, N., Rutherford, A., Kao, A., & Rahwan, I. (2020). Pescetelli_et_al_Collective learning in news consumption. https://doi.org/10.31234/osf.io/w6nc5

In Medias Res teams: The case for crisis learning alongside government covid-19 responses. (2020, April 13). Observatory of Public Sector Innovation. https://oecd-opsi.org/inmediasres/

Quote from Daniel Dennett