But also, you know,if you look at the world,what you seeis things appearing and disappearing,and humans are a partof the whole of that,and humans appear and they disappear.- Hmm.- Off the face of the Earth.That just happens.You know, our egos personalize itand we consider ourselves special cases.-Yes.-But we're really not, you know?We are a part of the wholeand everything in the wholetransforms all the time.It changes form. Transfigures.You're a special case.- That's 'cause I'm your mama.- No!No, I know there's... I know, but come on.There's no way to stop the heartbreak.How do you...What do you do about that?You cry.You cry.It's really hard.But it's definitely somethingeveryone's got to, you know, deal with.Yeah.And it's such a strange thing.I mean, the universe, it...it seems so stable......if you are...you know.......in this kind of automatic state.And the encounter with truth,which, for me, you dying...your dying....This thing has beenprobably the greatest...run-in with truth that I've hadin my whole life.You can't really...It's inexpressible.Yeah.But it's not like it makes you feel...This... This is not a feeling of, like...-This is not a desirable feeling.-No.But it's a feeling that every singlehuman being will experienceone way or the other.It is.But so much...So many of us are spending so much timeengaged in just ridiculous activities,it seems like,just to try to avoid this experience.Exactly.People really try to avoidthe consideration that they are gonna dieand that people they love are gonna die.It opens your heart.It breaks your heart open.- Yes.- You know?Our hearts have been closed,because we've closed them.We've defended ourselves against pain.And this opens them.Opening your heart sucks.- It hurts.- This is the thing.This is the thing Ram Dasstalks about all the... It hurts.Does it always hurt?Does opening your heart always just hurt?Are you just in a constant state of...No, it doesn't always hurt.But when it really cracks open, it hurts.You know? And it does.Even the hurt transforms,because if you inquire into the hurt,you know what you're experiencing is love.-Right.-The real deal.Yeah, it's... Yeah, right.Because it's seeing newness.It's seeing how much you value life.Yes. And the reasonI look better now than I ever have- is because I am more fully living.- Right.Because I'm living and dying consciously.Simultaneously, I'm holding both.
- our egos personalize our life experience
- transformation is what's constant in the universe
- the only way to grieve is to cry
- pain opens your heart
- "if you inquire into the hurt, you know what you're experiencing is love"
- living and dying consciously and simultaneously